Today my team ditched the office for a full day offsite! We do this every several months to celebrate all our hard work and talk about things that are not work related! I honestly don't know how I managed to surround myself with such stellar people...the kind I want to hang out with because I want to, not because I'm forced to :)
We took a ferry over to Sausalito for the afternoon and it was a perfect slice of heaven. At lunch we found out we have a very weird thing among us...
All six of us have different area codes even though we all live in SF or the East Bay! We are very sentimental about the first area code we were assigned with our phones and we don't want to update it. Isn't that funny? I remember a Seinfeld episode about that - Elaine had to change her phone number but she was mortified to lose her old New York area code!
The plan was to meet at the Ferry Building on the Embarcadero for coffee and then take a boat over to Sausalito for lunch. On my way to meet them, I saw this man in the window preparing his fresh fish and putting it in ice. It was such a San Francisco scene to me. When The Dude was a baby, I used to walk him up and down the street near us and we'd look in the windows of all the dim sum and sushi restaurants. There would be ducks hanging in the windows and huge pans of fried rice or steaming pork buns. I love watching the chefs in the windows, making their food and getting ready for service. There is so much activity here. But today we took a load off and got the hell out of dodge!
We walked to the top deck to enjoy the views. Fun fact: the Ferry Building was one of the places featured in Inside Out (one of our favorite animated movies of all time!).
We decided to eat at Bar Bocce because they have great pizzas and a beautiful outdoor patio with a view of the Bay. Sometimes when I see views of the city, it still takes me a heartbeat to remember that I live here. It's almost like it's too beautiful to be my home. We ordered a ton of food - the salt cod fritters, kale/almond salad, chicken/couscous salad, beet salad, mushroom pizza, and some other kind of pizza that I didn't eat because I was stuffed!
They ordered blood orange sangria which looked so pretty and I had a nonalcoholic beer. I love it when people save room to order desserts. My friend ordered the bread pudding and I told her that it's an under-appreciated treat! She let me have a bite and it was absolutely perfect. Seriously - order it!
I don't know why but I saw this picture on the wall and fell in love with it. I'm not a big spender or a collector of anything, but if I had the time and money I would love to travel all around and collect really interesting art. I love how you can find something that makes you smile on the wall of a pizza joint.
They were teasing me because I a.) paid $40 for eclipse glasses when you couldn't even see the dang thing in SF because of all the fog, and b.) I was still hanging on to a pair - you know...in case there's an unforeseen eclipse in the near future :) Look how my friend put them on and somehow made them look stylish.
We sat and looked at the water for a bit and then I cut out so they could cut loose a little. It's always a little weird having your boss around when the drinks start flowing if you know what I mean.
I packed running clothes and decided to literally run home since it was just over 6 miles and I needed to squeeze in that amount for my training plan. Only 94 more days until California International Marathon! GULP!
Let me tell you. It was HOT today. As in some parts of the Bay Area were in the triple digits. And of course being a noob and all I did not pack water so my butt was dragging under that scorching heat! The heat combined with the hills felt like total torture (in a good way).
There's something you should know about me. I am a total klutz. I trip over things constantly. This is why I would never ever make a good trail runner. You'd have to keep picking me up off the trails.
Exhibit A: I wasn't on the road one mile before I tripped, flew in slow motion in the sky, and then landed flat on my hands, knees, and pride.
I was using leaves to mop up the blood drips. I was keeping it real classy. Did I mention how hot it was? Holy cow. Big huge high fives to all of you out there running in heat like this every day. I don't know how you do it! But I must say the views on the bridge were simply amazing. No whale sightings but plenty of pretty sailboats and TONS of Black Baggers! It's a good thing I survived with only a bloody knee!
There's one short part of the run where you go under the Golden Gate Bridge. I'd never done this before because when I run the bridge it's usually an out-and-back from the other direction. So I was half scared out of my mind when I heard the cars start thumping above me - they were LOUD even over my music. I admit it was a little scary. I'm not great with bridges to be honest but I'm really glad I went out there and did the run. Seriously, it was really hard especially after a big meal and I could have easily called a cab but I chose to do the harder thing. There's nothing like that feeling of having done the HARDER THING! :)
As I ran off the bridge and up into the Presidio for my last leg, I almost stepped on this little snake. We had a stare down for a good 30 seconds. It was a moment.
Today was Croc's pajama day at school! He is such a happy boy. I wish they had pajama day for adults. I would completely get on board with that.
Sad Update: Either Sharky or Mr. Crabs passed on to the red claw crab tank in the sky. Croc still hasn't realized it five days later so I'm pretty hopeful we can replace it this weekend and all will be well.
What was your first pet as a kid? If you didn't have one, what did you want?
Ever taken a ferry ride? Where did you go?
I'm having some tough times at work right now. We're going through a lot of changes, and sometimes that can be a little hard to get adjusted to over a short amount of time.
Of course it's nothing a dozen donuts at my desk can't solve but...
Working in a tech company - a newly public one - in an ever-changing industry, you have to get used to A LOT of change. That means being flexible all the time and staying nimble enough to pivot when things throw you for a loop. It's in these times that I remind myself: Control What You Can Control
It's so easy to wish something had gone a different way or rack your brain with the possibilities of what could have happened if only this or that... This kind of thinking is pointless unless it's something you can take action against. There are actually very few things we have control over in life, so why not focus on those instead of pouring over endless scenarios or outcomes that are not in your control?
I do this with running too. If I get injured and can't log miles for a week, I can either sit and stew about how awful it is that I got injured and dwell over my missed training plan or I could turn it into action on the things I can control like icing, massage, strength training. And if there isn't anything you can do about the situation, then ask yourself some questions:
What is the most awful outcome I can imagine in this scenario?
What would I do if this scenario came true?
Am I unbiased enough to know how this will actually impact me?
Just this morning, The Dude was venting frustration that some of the kids in his class don't line up as quickly as they should. This means they get a shortened recess (which is the equivalent of a speeding ticket to an 8-year-old!). He said it wasn't fair that he should be punished for other people's mistakes.
Aside from reminding him that life isn't fair sometimes (something I feel I need to prepare him for and equip him for), we talked about what the worst outcome would be if the kids lined up late again today -- shortened recess, maybe the teacher would be mad, what if she thought The Dude was goofing off. And then for each outcome, we helped talk him through it. If your recess is shortened, mom can take you to the park after work for more fresh air. If the teacher is mad, that's okay, we all get frustrated sometimes (and it doesn't necessarily mean she's mad at him). If she thinks he was goofing off, then prove her wrong by showing extra good behavior today (a subtle mom jedi mind trick).
I've found that process to be really helpful. Do you have any suggestions on ways to keep your mind focused on only what you can control?
My new favorite obsession is this cookie from Trader Joe's which is 100% vegan! It's called Lenny & Larry's The Complete Cookie.
Croc goes to preschool at a childcare center inside Jon's work. It's such a great arrangement, and the teachers are so incredibly wonderful and caring. The great thing about him being at school there is that he's literally right next door to Jon's office and he gets to peek in and see what he's doing throughout the day. I love getting the random picture or bulletin board update. Imagine if your only to-do list for the day was this:
1.) wake up to snuggles, kisses, and people telling you they love you so much
2.) get fed breakfast with zero dish cleanup required
3.) do art with friends
4.) circle time
5.) read books
6.) have a snack
11.) quiet time to do whatever you want
12.) learning about wild animals
13.) go home to more snuggles, kisses, and hugs
14.) get fed dinner with zero dish cleanup required
15.) get fed 97 post-dinner snacks and cups of milk
16.) be begged to go to sleep surrounded by soft stuffed animals
Snuggle, kiss, snuggle, pillow talk, snuggle
I walked The Dude to school today and noticed this amazing display of succulents. Are succulents the new ferns? Remember in the 80s when everyone had ferns? Yes, I'm 42 and I know such things.
Tomorrow I run 6 miles and have a fun team offsite planned. We're taking a ferry!
(Almost) daily blogger. Sober runner. Mental sh*t stirrer. Pro gender equality in tech. Family first.