I'm having some tough times at work right now. We're going through a lot of changes, and sometimes that can be a little hard to get adjusted to over a short amount of time.
Of course it's nothing a dozen donuts at my desk can't solve but...
Working in a tech company - a newly public one - in an ever-changing industry, you have to get used to A LOT of change. That means being flexible all the time and staying nimble enough to pivot when things throw you for a loop. It's in these times that I remind myself: Control What You Can Control
It's so easy to wish something had gone a different way or rack your brain with the possibilities of what could have happened if only this or that... This kind of thinking is pointless unless it's something you can take action against. There are actually very few things we have control over in life, so why not focus on those instead of pouring over endless scenarios or outcomes that are not in your control?
I do this with running too. If I get injured and can't log miles for a week, I can either sit and stew about how awful it is that I got injured and dwell over my missed training plan or I could turn it into action on the things I can control like icing, massage, strength training. And if there isn't anything you can do about the situation, then ask yourself some questions:
What is the most awful outcome I can imagine in this scenario?
What would I do if this scenario came true?
Am I unbiased enough to know how this will actually impact me?
Just this morning, The Dude was venting frustration that some of the kids in his class don't line up as quickly as they should. This means they get a shortened recess (which is the equivalent of a speeding ticket to an 8-year-old!). He said it wasn't fair that he should be punished for other people's mistakes.
Aside from reminding him that life isn't fair sometimes (something I feel I need to prepare him for and equip him for), we talked about what the worst outcome would be if the kids lined up late again today -- shortened recess, maybe the teacher would be mad, what if she thought The Dude was goofing off. And then for each outcome, we helped talk him through it. If your recess is shortened, mom can take you to the park after work for more fresh air. If the teacher is mad, that's okay, we all get frustrated sometimes (and it doesn't necessarily mean she's mad at him). If she thinks he was goofing off, then prove her wrong by showing extra good behavior today (a subtle mom jedi mind trick).
I've found that process to be really helpful. Do you have any suggestions on ways to keep your mind focused on only what you can control?
My new favorite obsession is this cookie from Trader Joe's which is 100% vegan! It's called Lenny & Larry's The Complete Cookie.
Croc goes to preschool at a childcare center inside Jon's work. It's such a great arrangement, and the teachers are so incredibly wonderful and caring. The great thing about him being at school there is that he's literally right next door to Jon's office and he gets to peek in and see what he's doing throughout the day. I love getting the random picture or bulletin board update. Imagine if your only to-do list for the day was this:
1.) wake up to snuggles, kisses, and people telling you they love you so much
2.) get fed breakfast with zero dish cleanup required
3.) do art with friends
4.) circle time
5.) read books
6.) have a snack
11.) quiet time to do whatever you want
12.) learning about wild animals
13.) go home to more snuggles, kisses, and hugs
14.) get fed dinner with zero dish cleanup required
15.) get fed 97 post-dinner snacks and cups of milk
16.) be begged to go to sleep surrounded by soft stuffed animals
Snuggle, kiss, snuggle, pillow talk, snuggle
I walked The Dude to school today and noticed this amazing display of succulents. Are succulents the new ferns? Remember in the 80s when everyone had ferns? Yes, I'm 42 and I know such things.
Tomorrow I run 6 miles and have a fun team offsite planned. We're taking a ferry!
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