Turns out my wildlife adventure actually was NOT over! Saw this beauty on my drive home from Aptos...
I love getting out in the country but, honestly, I was not prepared for the amount of face-to-face interactions we would have with critters.
She had no idea there was a rattlesnake about to slither out of that bush in just a few minutes!! I really loved being away. It made me miss my family more and appreciate coming home to the warmth of our small flat. It also brought me closer to some friends who I don't see often enough.
Our final meal was a really great one and I didn't want it to end. I don't think the tri-tip did either. They were spooning so cozy together.
We listened to each other's stories about working in tech - what that's like as a woman. There are a lot of challenges that go with it. Sometimes it takes a reality check from a trusted friend to remind myself that I need to stop apologizing, start demanding equal treatment, and quit putting up with sexism in the workplace.
The Institute for Women's Policy Research tells us women in full-time roles still make only 80 cents for every dollar a man makes in the same role. And for women of color, the disparity is even bigger. It's a sad statistic, to be honest. It makes me angry. Sure, we've made some strides but not enough, and certainly not fast enough.
According to research, if change continues at the same slow pace as it has done for the past fifty years, it will take 44 years--or until 2059—for women to finally reach pay parity. For women of color, the rate of change is even slower.
Sexism can present itself in all kinds of ways. From my kid's coach assuming my husband is the one best suited to practice with The Dude, to a male colleague telling me to "take a breath" when I present a counterpoint to his, to blatant unequal pay. I see it all over. I think about quitting or giving up. I don't want to do this anymore, I say to myself. It feels like an uphill battle - a punishment made of 10,000 paper cuts. But then I think if I let it happen and I don't say anything or I just walk away then how will it ever change and what kind of example does that set for young women or for my sons?
Speaking of the boys, I can't begin to tell you how happy I was to walk in the door and immediately get bombarded with hugs and stories. They had such a great time with Jon, as always. He makes it fun for them. Here he is making them do pushups or burpees whenever they start running in the house. (Yes we already have some Halloween decorations up - it is game on Halloween season in our house!)
The Dude had a soccer game over the weekend and they celebrated a good effort with some ice cream. Croc got rainbow and The Dude got extraterrestrial (?).
I will get back in the swing of full posts tomorrow. In the mean time, how was your weekend? Did you get outside and smell the autumn air?